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He hit the screen with his Wii controller and wrote off the screen, by accident. He admitted it when confronted but how do you punish an 8 year old when well as you can guess television and video games have been taken off the punishment plate by his own hand!! Is it enough that he admitted it and feels bad or am I just a little to liberal, I am not the “woodshed” kind of dad! I really do not have 2000 dollars to replace it so the whole family is at a loss now when it comes to favoite shows and movies ect. As far as being able to spend more “quality” time together well shift work prevents that to an extent so that is not a viable positive out of the situation. No voices were raised during disscusions of the incident. What should be done, please.?
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corneliusxlax
March 26th, 2008 at 7:56 am
Sit him down and have a long talk with him about responsibility and respecting others property.
What’s up?
March 28th, 2008 at 6:07 am
Make him help out around the house.
Scorepyon
March 29th, 2008 at 5:14 am
The silent treatment?
You could always not do anything immediate, but use it to blackmail him sometime in the near future?
cz285b
March 30th, 2008 at 8:09 pm
“He hit the screen with his Wii controller and wrote off the screen, by accident. He admitted it when confronted ” …. “he admitted it and feels bad”
Remeber you are the parent and he is the child, he certainly cannot go to work for another one. It is called being a parent, enjoy it with its joys and “pains”
sunfly000
April 2nd, 2008 at 9:56 am
if it was an accident get over it!
U4TSAF2
April 4th, 2008 at 11:53 am
ADMITTED TO THE ACCIDENT. YOU DO NOTTA.
COME ON NOW, HOW DO YOU ACTUALLY EVEN CONSIDER A PUNISHMENT OVER AN ACCIDENT?
DESTROYED ON PURPOSE OUR OF ANGER CAUSE WHAT-EVER, YOU BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF HIM.
THIS QUESTION SOUNDS MORE LIKE YOUR BEST FRIEND CAME OVER, GOT DRUNK AND DESTROYED YOUR BRAND NEW LCD AND SHOULD YOU FORGIVE HIM AS YOUR BUD OR ASK HIM TO PAY UP.
IT’S YOUR 8-YEAR OLD KID……
Damn ReligiousNut
April 5th, 2008 at 12:58 am
If it was an “accident,” you shouldn’t “punish” at all…
Just make sure he understands that this is a lesson in why it’s important to be careful with expensive things…
If he did it out of frustration or anger or bratiness…then punishment would be in order…
But if he did it by accident, and feels terrible about it…That’s punishment enough…but make sure he “appreciates” how expensive that is, and what a hardship it is to replace…
Teach respect…no punishment necessary…
Elliott O
April 6th, 2008 at 5:42 pm
well you should have beat him up right after you found out, but im certain that gone so i guess make him do chores around the house
lizk
April 8th, 2008 at 7:21 pm
You could sell his Wii and games to help buy a new TV. But if it was truly an accident, then he probably feels bad and does not need to be punished.
phantom
April 9th, 2008 at 8:20 am
Tough one, this may sound ridiculous, but if you have the original box etc, not even a receipt, you can try taking it back to the store. Not having a receipt will help you, because they will probably give you store credit, unless you want a straight swap. You can say it just appeared….
Try it!!
Jay J
April 12th, 2008 at 3:22 am
Tell him that when you do get another TV then he isn’t allowed to watch it for a month, and right now he isn’t allowed to go to any friends houses to watch TV.
And people can say not to punish for accidents all they want, but there are never any real accidents. If he had bothered to watch what he was doing and taken better care, then there would never had been an “accident”. He was being somewhat reckless or over-enthusiastic, so it comes down to it being his fault and something which could have been prevented, and can be prevented in other matters in the future.
def4483
April 14th, 2008 at 2:20 pm
He’s eight and he broke something sacred to him and I bet not on purpose (have you seen those youtube videos when the Wii remote slips out of kids hands?). I don’t think you can do anything more as far as punishment goes.
vectracan
April 16th, 2008 at 6:56 am
definitely some punishment. something he wont forget. take something he really loves, especially something that you can sell and make him be a part of the whole process. right down to handing it over to the new owners. that way you can also put the money towards paying for a new tv. maybe the wii, especially since he cant use it without th tv anyway?
Miss.Issy
April 17th, 2008 at 10:09 am
your so called ‘innocent’ 8 year old son is probably not as innocent as you think. believe me, kids are good actos. how can you smash an LCD television by accident. think about it. um i think the punishment should be just how it is. all television and video games are gone but to add to that confiscate all video games for 2 or 3 days. if you think back and think about if your son was angry at the time and is he was. just give him no punishment. i sound really harsh is this reply but if he meant it but acts innocent he is just asking for trouble
Ricki
April 19th, 2008 at 4:41 am
8 year old boys tend to get into a lot of accidents! It’s kind of in their chemistry.
Given that he didn’t intend to break the TV, but you want him to understand that he needs to be more careful and thoughtful around possessions….I would ask him to maybe read a book of your choosing each week that he has to review for you. It’s a constructive form of punishment.
David P
April 20th, 2008 at 6:25 am
Let me congratulate you on not harming your 8 year old. He IS being punished by guilt. old cliche * Accidents happen thats why they call them accidents. Please love your child no matter what… A TV is not worth the pain you and he would feel if you struck him. He knows you are upset and he is to blame for your anger,,, It may even keep him up at night. So please give him a hug to let him know you still love him…
ALLELI
April 21st, 2008 at 8:47 am
yes, punish him. family members must take pride of appliances, he is 8 he is old enough to understand the value of money and not put anger on breaking stuff. he can find way to solve his issues in other ways. the sooner the better to discipline him. its up to you on how you will punish him. its your kid.
Porkchop
April 23rd, 2008 at 1:24 pm
Thats a tough one. When I saw the question my first thought was to beat his *** but after reading the details I said no to that.
Make him go to relatives and neighborhood houses (that you know are safe) and have him ask for chores to do. Rake their leaves, bathe the dog, wash the car etc. Have a jar set by the broke tv and all money he earns is to go in this jar. You can’t expect him to raise the 2000 but I’m sure he can earn quite a bit. Make him work a good while before you give in so he will learn the old rule - If you break it - you buy it. He should have came to you and not wait until he was confronted. It’s too bad the whole family has to suffer.
lesang_85
April 25th, 2008 at 1:09 am
lmao…i didnt know its true until i heard this. I saw a commercial that shows two guy on wii or 360 were playing some football game. And they throw the football with their remote to the plasma screen and it broke. lol…..but hey do you have warranty for that?
poksunga
April 26th, 2008 at 10:06 pm
You already know the answer: 8 years old, accident, admitted it, feels bad. Think back to when you were 8 and you screwed up.
souls m
April 27th, 2008 at 7:44 pm
3 minutes in the microwave . .that’ll sort him out! .. A dash of pepper, oregano, wrapped up in a roll, with 3 beers down the pub with your mates, and you’ll feel right as rain again!
sabina-2004@sbcglobal.net
April 30th, 2008 at 11:52 pm
Not a whole lot to do. An accident is just that . I know there where some proplems with the Wii controllers and them sliping out of hands. As you said. the punishment is already dished out. You can start a family fund you can ask your son to contribute to by earning with chores. That way he will feel like he does contribute to fixing the problem he accidently created.
Michael H
May 3rd, 2008 at 11:39 pm
It is a start that he feels bad. Now he must learn the consequenses of what he did. Explain, if you haven’t already, what his actions cost everyone in the family. No good TV, etc.
(This will help him to realize his impact on other people). Offer to help him pay half the cost ot the TV. Then give him jobs to do around the house that are not part of his regular chores. Tell him you will pay him an hourely rate. Decide what the rate will be, and stick to it.
VINCY
May 5th, 2008 at 2:43 am
Punishment is good if he can learn lesson from it or if he is doing the similar things repeatedly you should talk to him and should try to know about his problem if he has some kind of stress in his mind you have to counsel with him to know his problem after knowing his problem try to divert his mind from that perticular problem for him to relax mentally
mamapie2u
May 5th, 2008 at 10:59 am
Sounds like it was an honest 8 year old mistake to me. Because the TV will have to be replaced due to his carelessness, you might determine a set amount of money he would work off through chores that would go toward helping to replace the broken TV. As an example, give him several different special “projects” to do on Saturdays that would take most of the day to complete. Then tell him that after he has finished the chores and you’ve inspected them, that he has contributed $$$ toward the replacement/repair of the TV. Not “real” money, of course, and only a small but meaningful portion of the total cost. This will teach your son that even though accidents do happen, broken items still have to be fixed or repaired. No need to fuss about it because it really is just a life lesson to learn. Also take your son with you to a store to “check” on the prices of a new TV and settle on a fair amount that he will need to contribute from his chores. I think it will make your son feel like he has contributed A LOT to taking care of the problem.
I truly admire your son for his honesty AND YOU for the good parental relationship you have with him. That is so hard to find these days and is so special when you find parents/children that are that close. Congratulations to you both, Dad! You seem to be a VERY good parent.
Becca
May 5th, 2008 at 12:05 pm
He seems to have punished himself pretty well, the good old fashion way where the punishment definitely fits the crime (no tv/video games).
If it is just the screen that he broke, you can usually buy a replacement screen. Check around online. I’m not sure of their price.
If you’re feeling rather juicy, you could have him “work” to help pay for the new screen (if you decide to take that route). Doing chores, helping neighbors shovel snow, etc.
oy vey
May 7th, 2008 at 2:42 am
I’m sorry, but my kids are 7 & 8 and they know better than to behave like that. It would take quite a bit of force to smash an LCD on “accident”. I do think that while you appreciate his honesty his behavior has consequences. I think he needs to have his allowance garnished until he can pay for part of the tv replacement.
Have you checked with your homeowners insurance company to see if the breakage would be a covered loss? Chances are that your deductible would be less than the cost to replace the tv. It’s worth a shot at making the call.
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May 9th, 2008 at 11:04 pm
If he did it by accident, don’t punish him just tell him to be a lot more careful. It sounds like he didn’t tell you, you had to confront him? If so yes, he should be disciplined for that and for that ONLY.
Snowflake
May 10th, 2008 at 10:28 am
Let him watch only a black and white tv
The Best Wife & Mommy of 2!
May 12th, 2008 at 1:55 am
A spankin would be nice!
olschoolmom
May 14th, 2008 at 12:13 pm
1. he doesn’t get the game system back for at least 1 full year.
2. He works chores for you @ $5 per hour until he comes up with the price of the TV.